I used to think that getting married at 18 was stupid but this guy I'm crazy about joined the air force and I'm afraid if it will cause us to separate. We've talked about getting married then I can live on base and go to college. But I would be chancing a lot. What are the statistics of a young couple working out if they get married? I know a few of my friends who are engaged. One of them has a daughter and her fiancé raises her daughter as his own and I know they will work out. The other one he is in the Marines and he wants to marry his fiancé so that they won't be separated and its kind of encouraging me to marry this guy I'm with we've been together a while and we were separated for a month but we are back together now. What do you think? I know I'm crazy about him and we picked out a couple of promise rings for him to buy me for Christmas which can be used for an engagement ring. I'm just not sure what to do really. I want to stay with him plus I would get free housing on base which would save a lot of money during college.
I used to think
By weird_blonde17 - Posted on November 17th, 2008
How long is a while? I know of some relationships that have started off young and seem to be making it to forever but I also know that divorce rates are at about 50% right now.
If you are sure, then sure. If not, I would say wait.
The distance wont seperate you if you (and he) are commited. Benefits are not
worth a marriage to uncertainty or temporary infatuation.
Military spouse-hood is not the easiest and the family/friend seperation can, and has, caused some pretty extreme behavior...
Love is like a box of chocolates; if you chose wisely you won’t be disappointed and have to spit it out. ~T
Its been like two years that we have been together
The statistics is around 75 percent divorce rate for your age.
they are not in you favor.
Is this your first serious relationship?
I've only had three relationships and only one was serious other than this one.
Statistics don't matter. Get that thought out of your mind You will be a statistic in something no matter what you decide. (not get married, get married later, get married now, get divorced later, etc.)
You said you separated for a month before. Was that a break up? If it was a break up, I would seriously consider ALL options.
What about your parents? Where do they fall into this? Are you welcome to stay with them through college? Do they like your boyfriend? What do they think about the potential marriage? The last two questions are of little circumstance, as it will be your decision. I personally have found that my mom has pointed out things that I hadn't thought of, as far my future went. Don't let anyone, including your boyfriend, make your decision for you.
-Sonja :)
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We both had some family issues that came up which is why we split. My parents don't know about the possible marriage. We aren't really on the same page when it comes to my future. Like if I stayed with him I could go to college while living on base but they want me to go to NAU for college or to stay with them and attend GCC. They would react in two ways: they would either let me and not say anything or they would yell at me and tell me I'm screwing my life up again. They like him a lot.