A friend said he will like to get married to a slim girl so i got curious and asked hi what he will do if the slim lady turns out fat after few years in marriage, he gave me a very funny and ridiculous answer; " you know what i will do, get a bike and every morning and evening, i will tie her hand to the back of the bike and ride round the area while she have to run after and by so doing, she will loose the weight in few weeks" i could not help laughing cos i can't imagine such scene.
This is to tell you what most guys think about fat girls this days, but tell me, who says my size determine my potentials? i want to believe guys bthat consider and judge ladies by their stature are only being driven by what they see.
Most times, ladies are not choosy when it gets to who they want to date or marry but it is such a funny thing to know that as for ladies, your size determine youre fate.
i have seen pretty and smart fat ladies and at the same time i know some slim and very sluggish, fat ladies full of potentials and can makje things happen and slim ones on the other end.
what are we talking about, should ladies be judged by size, should all ladies go slim?
i am not sure.
They should not go slim as you call it. That is pretty cruel, but if your friend feels that way then he will go through alot of divorces or woman. Please don't use the word fat it is a disgusting word that should only be used if someone is a very mean or rude person. I find that word appauling. There are some woman that are like that as well.
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Dani
sorry , if u consider the choice of word disgusting Dani, are u saying there are also some women that want to choose guys according to their weight? yes u might be right but the rate on the male side compared to female can surely not be merged.
I agree that the male side for weight is way higher, but I have seen alot of girls do that as well. The word fat is disgusting, it is degrading, and disrespectful but I guess you must have never been called fat before...
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Dani
No, if is not fair that women should be judge by their weight. Your friend is going to have to change his attitude eventually.
If the person is at an unhealthy wieght and it impairs their everyday life and affects their self-esteem they should consider losing the pounds for their sake, but not becuase some guy wants them to lose the weight
You are right kaenan, its just not right having to go through stress just to make some guy happy, as a matter of fact, if he really cares, he will love the lady just the way she is. thats what i feel.
Trust me, I understand where you're coming from, but please believe me when I say that there are men out there who actually do consider personality and consider just as important, and perhaps even more important, than whether their lady's fat or thin. So hang in there, and make sure you're giving a variety of guys a chance too. It'll work out :)
i want you to believe me dear that i know there are guys like that out there but simply scarce my dear. i happen to be involved in some youth program and get to interview these guys privately or at times even publicly, you really dont want to know what they think when nthey see those lovely girlfriend of thirs in bikini.
I was a very fat kid. I'll admit it. I've never really been chosey about the "size" of the girl I'm with -I have a couple of ex's who would probably be VERY insulted by that statement, but it is the truth.
I never really understood the guys who only go for the stick thin type (disclaimer, my current girlfriend is very skinny) Beauty isn't limited to a certain weight.
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