To some, it is a disturbing word and to others it reminds them of pain and suffering. Most people have lost some because of it and others have thought about doing it when their life turned upside down. It is a permanente solution to the pain and suffering, and it only takes one person. It is a topic that is hard to bring up and pulls people apart but it needs to be discussed, people need to be aware of it and it is suicide. People need to take responsibility for it and admit to the truth.
It is in our nature to be cruel and irresponsible. Sometimes were are irresponsible without even recongnizing it and the other half of the time we are aware of the fact that we are being irresponsible. Irresponsible is in our nature and nobody can avoid it but when has being irresponsible became an excuse. Irresponsible means not caring, not having or showing any care for the consequences of personal actions. Than there is incapable of responsibilty where not legally capable of assuming responsibility for personal actions. What does responsibility or the lack of it have to do with suicide? Everything.
Reading the recent article about Myspace and how it led to a suicide case it was blaming the suicide on everything but the real, underlined problem. The Myspace suicide case is not a case that I picked to point out how irresponsible some people are but is brought up because almost everybody knows about it. It was a true tragedy and prayers are with the family but why when someone commits suicide we point the fingers at everything but the true reason.
People say that someone they knew commited suicide because they were being picked on to much at school, a boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on them, they were forced to becasue they couldn't escape the pain, or that someone pushed them to do it by harassing them.
It is in our nature to be cruel as mentioned before but it is not the actions of others that push someone to suicide. It is wrong to be blaming a website, a loved one, a boyfriend or girlfriend for pushing someone to commit suicide. It should not be allowed to make a case out of suicide because it resulted in loosing someone.
Suicide a tragic thing that happens sometimes without a warning and sometimes with and it does destory lives and families but it should not be blamed on others. Suicide means the act of deliberately killing yourself.
Why can't we take responsibility for what happened and just relize that it happened instead of trying to put the blame on somebody else so that the pain will hurt a little less and people will not see that person as someone who commited suicide. We try to pretend that it was something that recently happened in their life so that we don't have to relize that the sighs have been there forever. We try to think that we could of have stoped it so we look at everything again and again to search for answers. A mother does not want to tell her friends that her daughter commited suicide because life at home was hard and sometime unbearable but would rather say that her daughter commited suicide because people were picking on her at school and never leaving her alone. It gives comfort to the mother and it makes the daughter look like she has a good reason to do it and that those kids who picked on her are the real killers. It makes the pain feel a little less sharp.
Schools teach children that suicide is not okay under any circumstance and to get help. So why do we try to make suicide seem okay if we can blame it on a cause that looks real and seems real. Nobody pushes a person to fall in love, nobody pushes someone to get a job in a different town, nobody pushes someone to leave home and never look back. We do, and we have to take responsibilty for our actions, our choices, the way we handle things, they things we choose to say or never say.
That website may have led to a child feeling trapped and scared, the bullies at school may have picked on to a child to the point where the child feels alone but it does not push suicide. The harsh reality is that we are responsible of our lives during the hard times and the good times and nobody will ever be responsible of our lives but us. Our parents are not responsible for our life, our friends are not responsible for our lives, we are and that is all there is to it. We choose whether to attend college or end our lives, we choose whether to kill ourselves.
Sometimes people say that suicide is commited because of the bullies at school or the a person feeling not loved but usually those who think about suicide don't do it the first time they think about it. Children do not just run home and commit suicide after they were picked on at school, adults do not run home and commit suicide when something bad happens to them for the first time. It usually builds up, the emotions and than suicide is commited
It is a subject that seems wrong to be talking about because it is a true tragedy and it is hard to say that people are being irresponsible with their lives but people need to relize that you can't run and hide behide other problems to hide the pain and suffering. If we hide the real reason why someone committed sucidie than maybe the pain will go away but it will not, it will always be there. Maybe turning it into a battle and trying to earn some money fromm losing someone will make the pain a little less but it will not. We need to take responsility for our actions, even the really dark actions.
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I am writing a conjoining piece on this. It should be my most recent blog, I hope you check it out, rate it and comment it. As I have yours.
Suicide is never the answer. Only rarely, given certain, deeply definable, hectic and extraordinary circumstances.
Yours truly,
.demosthenes