Acceptance (Is it important ?)

Misha925's picture
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I really feel that acceptance is something that I must discuss. There is this girl in my class who has had a problem of being accepted probably all her life but I truly believe that the problem got worse when she entered high school. It all started freshman year when she became a little too friendly and it started to annoy people. She referred to everybody as her "best friend" and she just met these people. It's kind of hard to believe that if only she wasn't too friendly, she wouldn't have a problem of acceptance. Then when people were fed up with her, they started labeling her as ugly and a "lame". She would cry everyday and that made things worse because it showed how emotional she was and that only managed to get her another label,"cry baby". She tries so hard to make friends and she never suceeds. It's really pitiful. You shouldn't force friendship and that's exactly what she is doing. Now that we are juniors, things haven't really changed. She just cries less and each day, but she yearns for the end of the school day so she can rush home and cry. She will make an attempt to make friends every year when the new freshman enter school. They don't treat her any differently and they still find her annoying. She craves attention and that's her other problem. People are not going to talk to you all day long and give you their complete attention and she will never make friends if she doesn't change her views on things. I do talk to her sometimes to see how she is doing and she is usually sad and the more I talk to her, I find myself getting depressed and I am never sad. I try to give her advice but it seems it doesn't help because she hasn't accepted who she is yet and that's one reason why others won't accept her. So is acceptance important? To some it is but you must accept yourself first before others can accept you. I am not trying to negatively talk about my classmate but she is a great example of trying so hard to be accepted. Please comment (Thanks So much).

I think that acceptance is very important. I used to be "popular" but when my friends started drinking and I decided not to, I became somewhat of an outcast for a couple months. During that time I was very lonely and longing for friends. I think that everyone needs to feel accepted.

em.rambles's picture

But I think it's easy to be accepted without accepting yourself--being a teenager comes with a certain amount of self-loathing. Even the "accepted" kids, whether they're enormously popular or content with their group of friends, probably don't accept themselves 100%. Your friend/classmate's trouble is that she is neither accepting of herself nor accepted in a group, and that's difficult--but it sounds like you've made a good effort to help her, and there's only so much you can do.

rockerchiquita18's picture

Everyone would like to think that everyone will like them and they will have tons of friends, but the reality of it is that no matter what you do someone will always dislike you. I think the best advice I could give to anyone would be to be true to yourself and then you will find friends who like you for you. I think it is a far worse fate to have fake friends then to wait for those true blue best friends.

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