When is the right time in a relationship to have sex? Is it a social game that everyone is playing to fit in? In todays society currently 46.8% of all high school students report they have had sexual intercourse. And even if some werent doing it, most pretended they were just to fit it. Just like for me, i was 18 when i first lost it my virginity. Growning up i was always accused of being a liar. I was raised with high morals and wanted to lose it to someone who was worth it. I didnt feel like i was asking to much or expecting to much out of someone. I was always made fun of and was called a little girl who will never grow up. Losing your virginity was the first step of womanhood. I had little friends because thats all they talked about. I watched a lot of my classmates drop out of school because they were pregnant and saw there boyfriends at the time claim it wasnt theres and called them all types of abseen names. At the end of it they werent there for their children and the girl was by themselves. A single mother who basically threw their lives away. I was accused even by my parents as a liar. They saw it was everyone else is doing it what makes me think that your not. Sometimes i would get so upset and just want to find a random guy and do it with him so that i could get everyone off my back. Im glad that i didnt do it. But it was always on my mind. When i turned 17 i met a wonderful guy. I knew from the moment i met him he was the one i was going to spend my life with. I always wondered when he was going to ask me the "baby i love you when are we going to do it" line. But it never came. Yes he knew i was a virgin and respected me. Ladies we all need 'RESPECT"!! Once a scum always a scum dont expect him to change! But anyways it took us a year and a half to have sex. By that time we had finally gotten our first apartment and were basically married. I feel the perfect time in a relationship to have sex is when he committs himself to you. Committment is the best form of love. It shows you that there is no one else for him and he is WILLING to settle down with you. Sex isnt a game. Sex has a lot of consequences if not responsible with it. Ladies your body is a temple. Dont let just any man destroy it and get away with it. Love your self first before you can let someone else love you. I hope that this changed atleast one persons life.
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One needs to understand ALL are different individuals carrying different needs and preferences, therefore it’s important to (learn) understand your OWN personal needs regardless of what others around claim, say or pretend.
To talk about timescales of days, weeks, months or even years to get into the act is no more than nonsense which will bring nothing but confusion.
The right time is your own personal right time, regardless what!
To break down the fairytale illusion of “He is the One”, might prevent many of hitting a wall or remain behind with an emotional hangover.
Sexuality has little to do with love, it is sex!
Depending of your own desire’s one needs to make up his/her own mind in order to attract that what he/she might be wishing for.
46%? That's pretty high. High schoolers are a little more active than they should be in my opinion.
I personally like the traditional "wait till you're married" idea. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I don't think being together with someone for a week certifies you two need to have sex. That could just be a common misconception, and so many have bought into it that it's becoming a norm.
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I've seen a lot of marriages come about because the couple was getting older/getting tired of being virgins and wanted to experience sex; these are terrible reasons to get married; perdictably, many of these marriages quickly fell apart, sometimes after the couple had had some children.
Marriage itself seems like an outdated concept to me, but I agree with waiting for sex until both parties involved know for certain they are absolutely ready, nobody is intoxicated, etc, ect.
When I lost my virginity at age 19 it was with some random guy; my friends where all teasing me because I was still a virgin; I felt I needed to "prove" something about being a woman to my friends, I felt like I was missing out on some life experience, that I was "too old" to be a virgin. I grabbed a drunk guy at a party (I was drunk too,) and lost my virginity; it was a terrible experience and now, looking back, I wish I'd ignored all the peer pressure and just remained a virgin a bit longer.
I still make stupid mistakes and have sex with people at inappriopriate times/under the influnence of various substances; I think this is a pattern I've learned, starting with my first sexual encounter...I'm finally trying to unlearn these bad habits.
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Carrot