Abusive Relationships
Ever since 9th grade it has come to my attention the mistakes, or what i consider mistakes, that some girls make. There's some girls that want to be in a relationship, but the problem is that they don't really date, they just want to have that feeling of being loved. At first it does seem like that but once they are with the "right" guy everything changes. The guys starts changing, sometimes like in this case they show their jealousy and the abusiveness. The next mistake is still staying in the relationship after the things that have happened. They think that they cant find another person out there better than who they're with, but they're wrong, there's someone out there that can treat you way better. The guy starts to hit the girl more and more, but the girl still wont let him go, then the biggest mistake is when they dont do anything about it, they dont tell anybody. Which as a result, they end up dead. Girls need to be careful with who they get in a relationship with, it may seem like the right guy, but sometimes its not. Teens these days need to date, and see how the person they think they want to be with is the right one, get to know them, and dont get in a relationship so quick. Dating is the key to a happy relationship. And if YOU are in an abusive relationship, please, just let that person go, there is always someone out there better. No one out there deserves to be mentally nor physically abused. Talk to someone. I would talk to my bestfriend if i were in a situation like this, because its someone i can really trust.
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Alot of people forget that abuse can be mental or emotional and have greater damage than some physical abuse. Thanks for bringing this topic up.
Mentally but not so much physical. There are times that I question if I was physically abused or not, but mental abuse is no question at all.
You're totally right... and, unfortunately, I was one of those stupid girls that thought they couldn't find better and were totally in love with the guy, so they stayed in the relationship. I know it's a horrible example, but in Dane Cook's Vicious Circle he talks about how girls will make up the stupidest excuses to stay in a relationship. And that is so true. I stayed in that relationship for 16 months after the guy liked my bestfriend on and off for the entire 16 months (he confessed this after we broke up though), confessed around our 9 months that he liked his ex girlfriend, and then right before our one year confessed that he had liked this other girl for the previous six months. I delt with all of this and the constant mental and emotional abuse that he put me through. It really, really messed me up. By the time I ended the relationship after our 16th month anniversary, I had the lowest self esteem that I had ever had, an eating disorder, self-hurting problems, and one suicide attempt. It really sucked.
I was so happy once I let him go. I have a new boyfriend now that I've been with for 3 1/2 months and, even though it's still early in the relationship, he has treated me better than my ex ever did.
Thank you for bringing up this topic. You're right. Girls should never think that they should stay in a relationship like this because they THINK that they cannot find anyone better. If someone is treating you like my ex did or with ANY time of abuse, you should leave them. There is ALWAYS someone better out there for you. Never give up hope.
Great, but why not talk more about the boys' responsibility?