I'm no longer a little girl, that's for certain. I have traded in my Barbie corvette for a real car payment. The Barbie dream house is really a two bedroom apartment in which I pay too much in rent for. The hips, to waist, to boobs ratio, well are physically impossible to achieve. The wardrobe is certainly achievable, however, comes with a high credit card debt. And Ken? Well where in the world is my Ken?
With age and experience, I realize Ken is simply a plastic Mattel figment that only exist within the confounds of Barbie's Malibu beach house. However, just because Ken is not real, does that mean a dream man is not in the works for me? I'm beginning to wonder if the answer to that question is no.
Do not get me wrong, any woman can have a man. But the truth is, he would be just any man. I deserve better than just any, better than just a settlement. I deserve someone who respects me and my dedication to my work and education. I want someone who I can grow with emotionally, spiritually and physically. Someone who inspires me to achieve more and be more.
However, I refuse to change myself to find this man. I refuse to dumb myself up. I will not slut myself out. I refuse to compromise my morals, lower my standards or give up my dreams for a man. I need a man who will let me melt the ice around my frigid misdemeanor. Being independent and well established are my strong points. It can be a fault of mine as well. However, any man I decide to be with needs to understand he also needs to be a provider and a comforter to me. He must let me trust him enough to be a bit dependent on him.
I do not think I'm asking or expecting too much. I am now an adult with responsibilities. I no longer have time for frivolous games and meaningless dating. I require someone worthy of my devotion. And for all you single women, and even men, out there. Please, never compromise your goals, morals and the respect you have for yourself out of desperate needs for a significant other. You are precious and deserving of someone special who inspires you to set forth a change the world for the better.
Try to love yourself first, at love will present itself at your doorstep…good luck ;-)
Of course you shouldn't change yourself for your significant other. The only person who you should change for is yourself, and then only when it's needed.
And who needs Ken anyway? He's lacking the proper equipment to satisfy his partner.
People are people, even though people are strange.
Try match.com or one of those crazy sites. They'd probably find you someone compadable.
Stop looking. Just stop.
Focus on your life -- your finances, apartment, schooling, whatever. Just don't think about guys or relationships.
Why? Because once you stop looking, you become more likely to find someone.
Think about it this way. How many times have you lost something and tore the house apart looking for it? Now, how many times did you end up finding it as soon as (or shortly after) you gave up?
You're so worried about finding "the right man," that he could actually be right in front of your eyes, but you've overlooked him.
-- quis custodiet ipsos custodes?