I'll take weight issues for 300.

Lovely dress, great blog entry title, but horrible self esteem.

Personally, I cannot see a person as "fat" unless they are a mean person. My friends cannot be fat. Good, nice people cannot be fat. Mean, spiteful people are fat. I'm sure you'll look fine in your dress. Just don't do anything that will hurt your health because of a stupid prom. It's really not all it's cracked up to be (in my opinion of course. *sigh* wish i didn't have to say that automatically).

Work on that self-esteem, missy! :)

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Well, if I may ask, how much do you weigh? I am 200 and have been for a long time. Can't gain or loose any weight. I wish I were about 175, even merely 25 pounds and I would look so different. And yet I still think that I can be beautiful, the only people that count are my friends and family and they will tell me if something looks horrible on me.

I guess in some ways it's not a matter of how much you weigh, but how you look at yourself and what you wear. Larger people have to watch what they wear.

My advice if you want to loose the weight is to follow the food pyramid closely and stay healthy.

Goodness gracious, I understand weight issues. I've always been heavy. Funny thing is, I'm already doing everything that every doctor has told me to do to drop soume weight. I'm eating better than the rest of my family usually does, and I exercise nearly every day for two hours.

Still heavy. It's genetic, sadly. I didn't know this until recently, because the chunky gene skipped everyone else in my immediate family. Stupid heredity.

So seriously, don't stress over it. Exercising a little more and eating better will probably help a little. But don't fret over trying to be skinny. It's just as overrated as prom is. ^_^ Trust me, the most beautiful people are those who are comfortable in their own skin, chunky or not. So if you're not stressing over your weight and just enjoy yourself, you'll shine.

And that's comin' at ya' from yer local redneck hippie.

What exactly constitutes "chunky"? That's a beautiful dress and I think no matter what your weight is you will love wonderful in it with some confidence.

You should consult a doctor before you start an exercise/diet regimine. Has your physician recommended that you lose weight? 1300 calories a day is not a lot, especially if you're exercising every day. The average person needs about 2000 calories a day. If you're exercising every day you probably shouldn't cut your caloric intake so drastically until you see a professional.

I'm glad that you are taking the initiative to lose weight and become healthy, but just make sure you are doing it the right way. If you are involved in a workout program, you should be eating at least 1500 calories a day to keep your metabolism up. The whole point is to get healthy and boost your metabolism, not lower your food intake. Just switch your unhealthy foods to some of the more healthy ones, especially fruits and vegetables. And be sure to get some protein in somewhere! All of this should help, and of course, exercising will work miracles as well. Best of luck!

I love the dress. I agree with alot of people who commented. Your self-esteem is low. Mine has been most my life also. I was made fun of since I was in preschool until 7th grade. I decided to stop eating. Lost almost 50lbs. I still felt fat but my body just couldn't do it anymore.

I am very short (5'1) and I was 120 lbs. Now most people would think well that is a fine weight, but one must understand the way my body looks. I have small hands, wear a size 4 1/2 in kids shoes but have huge hips, bust and rib cage. My body is not made to be 120lbs.

I have started to tone up by working. I lift about 50 to 100lbs. But If I were you I would first gain some confidance. You should want to look good because YOU want to not to please everyone else. I did it to please everyone else. My aunt tormented me saying "one day you will be pretty and lose all that weight." The boys won't matter years from now. If someone likes you they will like you for how you are now.

I have finally excepted that I will not look perfect like these models, or other people. But I can look perfect for my body. It is the same for everyone. They want to look thin like everyone else when their body may not even be made to look like that.

Be happy with who you are. If you want to tone, tone up. If you want to lose weight, lose weight. But do it for YOU not anyone else. It takes alot of hard work to come close to the way you want your body to look. I am still not there but have excepted my body for what it is now. I hate the word fat too, like bridge said.

Put on that dress and feel confidant. The more you feel "fat" the more you will percieve yourself that way. If you have the confidance than you can change how your mind is working! :)

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Well, it makes since that you weigh a little more because you're taller. I am about 5'7. I am "clinically overweight". It runs in my genes as well. I know this because of my mom and my dad. My dad is alright, but his dad died of obesity. My grandma on my moms side is obese as well. Another thing, though, that I have to have checked is my thyroid. It runs in my family as well and it really sux. My mom has to be on pills the rest of her life because hers was overactive as a teen. If mine acts up it will be dead because if its overactive you're skinny. Anyway, I forgot to mention before that I love the dress you picked out and I think it will look just fine on you.
Oh, and another thing to consider, Samantha, is your bones. Do you have small or large bones. I know that most people swear that I'm not 200 because I have such large bones that account for most of the weight. Still, to me, I look it and see it everyday. I avoid mirrors as much as possible. Funny thing is though, when I don't stop to think about it and as long as I only look in the mirror once in the morning to put on my eyeliner then I am not so self-conscience about it. Maybe you should try that and as long as you are staying healthy that's all that matters... Good luck!

You need to work on your self esteem before you focus on your body. Seriously... I was at a pretty heavy weight and considered 'chunky' most of my life. Roughly 4 years ago, I started working harder at appreciating myself. I forced myself to look and see how beautiful I was. Probably helped that I had an awesome guy telling me so at the same time... But I've lost a ton of weight since then, and I'm now at a nice, healthy weight. I'm working on doing things to simply better my health now... things like eat better and exercise. Not because I want to lose weight, but because I want to have energy, and feel good all around.

As stated above, if you're going to change your diet that drastically, you need to see your doctor, or a nutritionist to make sure you're eating the proper foods. 1300 (or even 1500) calories doesn't mean a thing... what matters is the type of foods you're eating.

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Some dos and don'ts for you to consider, since you sound a lot like me:

Don't look at a scale.
Don't count calories
Don't exercise for exercising's sake

Do eat healthier things, such as fruits and veggies
Do avoid sugary things and empty calories
Do something you enjoy for exercising (roller/ice skating, tennis, basketball, take your pick)

Like the others said, it's not about the calories, it's about eating the right foods. Lots of carbs aren't going to do you any good if you're not running a marathon or playing a basketball game or something else that takes a large amount of energy. Empty calorie foods don't fill you and don't provide any nutrients.

Don't look at the scale, or you'll become obsessed with it and most likely will be disappointed when you don't see results as soon as you may like. A healthy weight loss speed, unless under direct care of a doctor, is about 1 to 2 pounds a week, so weighing yourself every day isn't going to do you any good. If you see a doctor on any sort of regular basis, then use that (for example, I was on Depo Provera, which required a monthly doctor visit that included taking my weight, so that was the only time I'd see a scale), otherwise, limit it to no more than once a month. That way when you do weigh yourself, you'd be more likely to see a difference, depending on your choice of exercise (if you're building muscle, then you won't see much of a weight change, since your muscle will replace the fat). Instead, measure your progress through how your clothes fit. As your weight shifts to muscle and leans, your clothes will more than likely fit differently.

If you're anything like me (which, from the way your blog is, you sound a lot like me), then you're probably not exercising because everything you've tried ends up turning into a chore, and if you are like me, you hate chores. =P Instead, do something you enjoy, or, depending on how you choose to exercise, do something with it that you enjoy. In other words, instead of running, try roller skating. Instead of doing push-ups, play tennis. Or, if you want to lift weights, set up your weights in the living room and watch TV while you do it.

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