As an 18 year old senior in high school I can honestly say I have been through much more than most people my age. When I was 15 i discovered that my parents were using crack. Actually, they were using whatever they could get their hands on to get high. Crack, coke, crank, meth, you name it, they most likely did it. We lost everything. Both of my parents lost their jobs, our house was forclosed on, they took our boat, four-wheelers, car, anything the government could take, they did. I am not an only child. I was not the only one affected by my parent's ignorance. I have a 6 year old sister who was just a toddler at the time of their fall from grace. She, more than any of us was affected. There was hardly any food to provide her with nurishment. Most days she would go eating only chips or junk food. My parents were angry violent users. Teachers do not teach about the effects of using drugs for the fun of it. What they say happens, really happens. Multiple Personality Disorder, Schizophrenia, Paranoia, those side effects are all real and they are caused by drugs. My little sister who was 3 at the time had to endure all of those things with me. She got the worst of it because she was not yet in school and neither my mother, nor my stepfather had jobs. Some days they didnt even have the ability to take care of her while i was at school. When a user has been using nonstop for lets say a week straight, it takes a toll on their bodies. eventually they have to crash. their bodies demand sleep and will shut down. I'm not talking about just sleeping for a few hours. They would literally go into a state of a coma for days. I being the one left with the responsibilities of raising a child when i was but a child myself. Eventually, my grandmother threatend to take my sister and i away from my parents. That, i feel is what made my mother wake up from her drugged out fantasy of living like a hippie from the 60's. She did stray away from drugs after a few weeks of not seeing her children. However, it took losing her home, car, and everything else she owned and loved to make her realize that although the high makes her feel good for a moment, the after effect is enough to make one want to end their life. Drugs are no joke. Many people do not realize how many children are living with drug using parents and how that can affect them mentally and physically. The problem of drug abuse is extremely overlooked in today's society. Children are afraid to speak out against it because of the fear of what might happen to their parents. Take it from someone who endured over 2 years of hell, speaking out is the right thing to do. If you dont help your parents, or even someone you know get help, chances are they may never get help. and the deeper they sink in to drugs, the closer they get to death. I am very lucky that my parents are still here today. If i wouldnt have taken refuge in my grandmothers love, if i wouldnt have cared enough to stop my parents from the suicide path that they were on, then my life would be completely different at the moment. I would be an 18 year old with full custody of my 6 year old sister. People make mistakes however, it is up to those that love them to help them see and fix those mistakes. Silence will only grow quieter and only help those we care about sink deeper into a sea of mistakes and hardships. please, if you know someone who is a parent and a drug user, help them. talk to them, get them help, or tell someone who can get them help. Dont let others suffer for the mistakes people around them are making
Crack Crumbled Family
By MyHeartIsInIowa - Posted on April 28th, 2008
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My mom is an addict and that is what caused my dad's death!!!
i'm so sorry to hear that. when we are little people let us believe that when we grow up everythings will be a fairytale. however, that is not how life works. life is a dark, cold place that will consume whoever makes mistakes. i'm very sorry to hear about your dad. i know thats no consolation considering what youve been through and what you're still dealing with but, it's good to talk about it. even if you dont know what to say or dont want to say anything at all, sometimes its just better to speak to someone whos been there and bought that t-shirt. as to some advice on your mother....i know how hard it can be to have a drugged out mom. my mother was my best friend for a long time until she started using. i cant tell you how much i hated her. not only that i felt like i had lost her. in my heart i felt like she abandoned me and i didnt think i was ever going to forgiver her. however, a light eventually broke through and it took alot of crying and begging for my mom to finally realize just how much my sister and i needed her. keep your head up. talking about it makes things a little easier. i'm always here if you need to just vent. again i am sorry about your father and i hope that his memories can give you the courage to help you help your mom.
I'm sorry for what you have been through. At least though they did wake up and realise that their addiction had went to far. Some people's parent's have either died or been put in prision for theier drug habits. I also have been through more than most my age so I can relate a little bit. I'm glad it worked out for the better because my situations did not work out for the better. It is nice to see that someone has been able to pick up the pieces and recover.
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thank you. i greatly appreciate the condolences. it seems things for teens these days are almost unbearable. i'm sorry to hear that you are still dealing with hardships. things do get better and though it might not seem that way now, i assure you they will. if you need to talk to someone dont hesitate to come to me. our situations may not be the same, but its nice to have someone out there to just talk to. how old are you by the way?
If you ever need to talk as well then feel free. I am 20 years old. I will be 21 in November..which is still far away. I mention this in alot of blogs so I figured people were getting sick of it but I will go ahead and say it.
I watched my mother die in the hospital in 2006. I was 18 then and she was 47. She was in a coma for almost a month. The hospital pretty much helped her die. They put a deepline catheter in an artery instead of a vein. After that she had a stroke, was having seizures and went into respitory failure. I wrote a blog on it if you want to check it out it is called: fear,guilt, pain and watching someone die. All my friends abandoned me before she died. My mom's side of the family will not speak to us because we had her cremated. What a stupid reason, along with other reasons. But enough about me.
I truly am sorry for what you had to go through and you are right. Another thing I might add is although bad things happen we learn through them. My mom was a prescription drug addict. But thanks for the offer and the offer stands for you as well :)
http://www.progressiveu.org/032913-lupus-uncureable-wait-what
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