So here is the deal.
My best friend loves this boy who is a total jerk to her and everyone else. They went out then broke up and he went out with someone else but they still had a thing and this happened 4 different times with 4 different girls. I think that it kept happening because she kept letting it happen. I understand that when you love someone it's hard to give them up but he wasn't and isn't good for her.
He tells her that shes fat and ugly and calls her a bitch and at school he just pretends she doesn't exist, until the other day. A couple of days ago he stopped her in the hall when no one else was around and told her to call him and then just walked away because he knows that she will.
I told her not to but she never listens to me about anything. She is finally getting into another relationship with this other kid, Caleb, and they are really getting along and he really likes her and she really likes him and everything is going so great with the two of them and now all the sudden because this other kid, Ryan, wants her to call him she seems to think that Caleb is completely wrong for her when 3 days ago she was saying how great they were for each other.
Then this morning I find out that she did call him last night but he didn't answer. I told her that it was good that he didn't answer because she didn't need him, that she was to good to even be thinking about him.
He's such a jerk and she doesn't even notice that what he is saying and doing aren't good things. She thinks he's just "a little cranky sometimes." but it isn't just sometimes it is all the time.
I understand that she loves him and can't just forget about him but they haven't been going out for almost 2 years and when I tell her to just stop thinking about him she gets mad at me.
The other day I asked her if she just loved him or was actually in love with him and she said she didn't know which makes me think that the only reason she keeps going back to him is because he's familar to her. When I found out about him wanting her to call him I made her promise that she wouldn't call him until she figured out if she loved him or was in love with him, because there is a difference.
It is just so frustrating. I don't know how to help her one way or another. Any suggestions?
