Ever since I lost my virginity/innocense I've been racking my brain trying to come up with a way that could save other girls from making my same mistake. After researching the subject, I found that oral sex is illegal in most of the United States. Of course, that doesn't stop everyone from participating; but if caught something could be legally done about it. As a teenager I felt like I was a grown and that I knew everything. As a young adult now, I realize I didn't know anything. Sure, it was fun to have a fling, toss them to the side, then have another; but the emotional burden and immorality that it brings upon oneself isn't worth it no matter how good it feels at the time. In today's society casual sex has become far too widely accepted. It's causing too many kids to have children of their own. I was blessed not to become pregnant while I was galavanting around. I was also extremely lucky not to catch any STDs. I had a stepsister who was diagnosed with herpes when she was only sixteen. I was terrified for her. She let a boy "eat her out". She was still a virgin! I felt so bad for her. I felt like it should have been me instead of her. What a horrible way to start her sexual experiences! It doesn't seem to phase many of America's young people. Maybe if there was a legal punishment put in place they'd be less likely to keep repeating history's mistake. Maybe less parents would allow their children to sleep over with the opposite sex as well. Making pre-marital sex illegal would send a serious message to all those who think casual sex is acceptable.
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Making something illegal never solves a problem, generally, it just makes it worse. Also, sex, in any shape or form other than rape, should also never be made illegal. To make sex illegal in any fasion, say underage sex, would open up the flood gates and allow things like homosexual sex to be made illegal, and then you start infringing on people's rights. Plus, many parents do try to teach their children about sex. They may not teach them about abstinance, but they try to teach a little about safe sex. What their children decide to do with what their parents tell them is all up to them. It is in no way the parents fault. As someone who got pregnant at 16 this is something I had to stress to my parents over and over. In no way did me getting pregnant mean they were bad parents, it meant I made a poor decision in not listening to what they told me.
Just think of it this way: pot is illegal, does that stop many teens from smoking it? No. Making sex illegal will be just as pointless.
MommaTrish - mom of 2 boys and a bump
My mom had sex outside of marriage after divorcing two men. Should she go to jail too?
Sex (except rape, which is assault) should never be made illegal, simply because it is a personal choice. And how would you define marriage, anyway? Do you have to be married by the state, or will a religious ceremony do (as there are people who choose not to be recognized as married by the state, but have a religious ceremony)? What about homosexuals, who can't get married?
If you want to stop young girls from making the same 'mistake' you did (and it's not a mistake to every girl), then the best way to do it is to speak out about it, not make a law outlawing things based on your mistake.
~C
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The only type of sex that should ever be considered illegal is of course rape.
"Ever since I lost my virginity/innocense I've been racking my brain trying to come up with a way that could save other girls from making my same mistake."
Just because you think it was a mistake for you, dosn't mean it is or will be considered a mistake to someone else. I lost my virginity when I was 16. I don't think it was a mistake at all. I never have and I never will. Even though I'm not currently with the guy I lost it to, I still love him and always will. We have put each other thru hell and back and thru all of it neither one of us has ever thought it was a mistake. And we are still close friends. But it shouldn't be made illegal for anyone to have sex just because it is before marriage, underage or what not. That is violating a person's free will and their rights. Making it illegal will only make teens want to do it more. As with most things that are illegal. Like underage drinking. It is illegal, and most of the teens in my high school do drink.
Having sex is and should always be a decision made by the people having sex at the time.
<<>>FKJ<<>>
if two people love each other sex is OK. you shouldn't have to be married. times have changed. and when you're young, you're supposed to make mistakes. that's how you learn. if you didn't then you would be like 36 and still as immature as a 12 year old. when the government makes something illegal, more people just wanna do it. instead of saying sex out of wedlock should be illegal, push safe sex in your community.