Wandering eyes are for fools? I'm a catholic teenage girl whose sexual orientation is straight. Sometimes I often have curiosities about naked woman, woman body parts, and what if I just kissed a girl right now. For instance, I enjoy looking through Victoria's Secret magazines just to see the girl's figures. Does doing this or having thoughts like this make me bisexual? I do have a boyfriend so it's odd having these feelings. You ever looked at someone of the same sex and just wonder… what if you kissed them? How would it be like? I was at work today and the new coworker walked in the cooler in front of me as I walked in and I just looked at her and thought how odd it was that I was thinking about kissing her. How are these feelings supposed to make my state of mind to be clear and my focus be on my boyfriend? Has anyone ever had these feelings? Am I the only one? Am I coming out of the closet? Does this mean I am homosexual? What should I do to make myself feel less stressed out about all of these strange feelings? I don’t mean to be forward with this blog but where else can I get answers to questions I can’t speak about with anyone I know.
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Damn you to hell for being human!
hah, its cool girl. A good way to get forward answers is to be forward.
So your mind's experimenting...as a teenager with your sexuality waking up and stretching, its alright to let it! Its part of who you are to just play around with concepts, there's nothing evil about it. A full woman should know the edges of her sexuality in confidence.
If you have a boyfriend, then that means the two of you are drawn to each other and are exclusive because he's worth it right now. It doesn't mean you owe him your every thought. And he probably has thoughts too. Sensual thoughts enrich life, they put you more in your body. Your clearly not trying to outright sleep with everyone, so I wouldn't take it so seriously.
If you work to supress those feelings they'll just pop out more and you'll be more ashamed or confused. Just embrace it and it wont be such a big deal. you can breath!
By embracing it, the images might lessen, or strengthen, or change. Either way you'll find out. One way it can be a panic, and the other you wont be running from yourself.
Is it really such a big deal when you put this into perspective?
It's who you are, and it is totally cool.
wishing the best,
-Me
You're queer dear. Just go with the flow of whatever feelings you're having. And remember, you and your boyfriend aren't married. I don't know how serious your relationship with him is, but I think it would be bad to limit yourself because you feel you have to be faithful to him forever. Maybe you need a break from him to explore yourself.
“I hope the departure is joyful and I hope never to return.” - Frida Kahlo
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That isn't weird at all. I can't say I ever thought about going up to some girl and kissing her, but sure I look through VS magazines, they're gorgeous women. I have kissed, er made out, with a girl and I didn't feel that kind of attraction it was just kind of fun. Maybe you should do it, and then you will realize it really was just curiosity, or maybe that it isn't... who knows?
Après la pluie le beau temps. ♥
every once in a while i think somethin of the nature-girls!
imagination is not is not a problem, the problem is finding out how you really feel and who you really are. sounds like your issue is you can't seperate the two. Just follow your heart and the rest will fall into place, being gay or bisexual doesn't seem to be a choice to me but a preference. however in your case i think your experiencing what every young adult goes through...The "what if" stage.
Um, sounds perfectly normal to me. It sounds like you're probably straight - you COULD be bisexual, but you definitely seem to prefer men. I don't think there's anything wrong with admiring a woman's body - I'm lesbian, but I still think some men are very aesthetically pleasing. And there's nothing wrong with kissing someone as an experiment to see what it's like, either.
aww... no i felt the same exact way! I had a boyfriend and would always look at girls in a sexual way. I have my entire life; but i couldn't "come out" because i am lutheran and my parents are completely against it; and i went to a lutheran school. So i couldnt come out going to that school. But i finally did in 10th grade in a public school. Sometimes i regret it because i feel like i have disappointed my parents, but i dont because its how i feel so i cant help it. My parents still dont approve and now my mother doesnt let me go with any girls except my bestfriend. She thinks i hook up with all the girls; but it isnt true because me and my girlfriend have been dating for 5 months and i wouldnt ruin that for the world. I know how you feel; and if you keep having those feelings and looking at girls wrong....come out eventually.
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