You'll notice that one of my favorite topics to write about has been rape of underage children. Half of my posts comment on the subject. So hopefully you'll understand how strongly I feel about the subject and how important it is in our society.
I recently read a post by DMILLER06: Baby Think It Over. She writes about a 12 year old she knows who got pregnant.
The initial reaction for most people is probably "what a slut." Many may think "Where are her parents?" My mind focused more on the latter, but mostly because at the end, DMILLER06 described the situation in more detail.
Apparently, the 12 year old baby got pregnant by an older man. Her mother's boyfriend. SHE STARTED SLEEPING WITH HIM AT 10 YEARS OLD. If that's not bad enough, DMILLER informs us that the little girl "had to drop out of school and move out of her mother's house to keep the community police from finding out."
I practically exploded when I read that. Mom didn't want the police to find out her 12 year old child was pregnant by her pedophile of a boyfriend so the little girl had to MOVE OUT.
Most of my complaints are about our justice system. I usually ask why police don't watch people accused of crimes like this. But then I find out that perverts like the guy who got this baby pregnant are walking the street because the mother of a 12-year-old pregnant child didn't want police to find out.
This little girl was RAPED people. I don't give a rats tail if she consented or not... you have zero legal merit when you are 10. Or 12. And I don't know of any state or county that allows a 12 year old to consent to sex (let alone a 10 year old). Especially not with a grown man.
This man should be locked up for the rest of his life. I can not express my rage at the situation. This man is a pedophile and a rapist and who knows how many other girls have been his victims or will become his victims.
And Mom, that stupid [insert horrible cuss word here], allows that man to walk the streets. She's probably still with him. She probably blames her little girl when in fact she was a victim of rape.
The magnitude of this situation is far beyond my comprehension.
What do you all think?
Oh, to end this on a happy note [not], the little girl contracted chlamydia from the pervert. Ugh.
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That's horrible. I wonder how many more kids had to face something like this but do not have the courage to speak out. Do you think they're ashamed or scared? I'm curious too if I were raped by someone, would I be brave enough to admit it? Sigh. Even if I report is and the guy says, "Well, she enjoyed it." Urgh, I'll probably be too angry to come with an intelligent comeback for that.
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Many victims of rape don't report it. It's a question of guilt and shame... and who wants to admit that they were raped? But in this case... the child was in no way capable of knowing the difference between rape and consent. That is preposterous. I cannot believe that this situation has occurred, people are aware of it, and the man hasn't been prosecuted. Anyone around her, including her teachers and her friends, has the ability , nay, an obligation to report her pregnancy to the police and get this scumbag off the streets. But apparently none of them have. This world disgusts me.
Another reason could be her access to law enforcement or adults. It's hard to catch a teacher or other adult alone without a parent finding out, and much harder to contact law enforcement. Also, if law enforcement is contacted, there may or may not be any changes made depending on evidence and whether or not the police believe the victim. I am from a small town, and most rape cases are thrown out because the police choose not to look into them or blow them off as "the person shouldnt have been drinking, was trying to get attention, wanted revenge against the person, etc.
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Today the children are taught to TELL TELL TELL.
But years ago, and for some even today, for a child victim... silence is golden.
they wouldn't believe me when I told them about the man in the park when I was 7, therefore why would they believe me about the 6 neighbour boys when I was 9, (or even after my sister was molested laying next to me), my father when I was 12, or being dragged into the bathroom at summer school, or the guy from the group of six that came to the bedroom window a few nights after the incident when I was nine.... nope. You learn as a child that with silence only one will fall. But as an adult you realize it allowed it to happen to others too.
My question is, why was there no mention of the mother being jailed as well? In my eyes, doing nothing is as bad as committing the crime. And she kicked the little girl out?
I understand why the little girl wouldn't want to tell. Anyone can sit on their high horse and say "the little girl should have spoken up" but they'd never know how hard it really is.
What I don't understand is the mother. I didn't mention the mother, you're right... and I should have.
Child neglect is a crime, and I have never seen a case of neglect so unheard of. Mom should be jailed, her 12 year old should be taken away (oh wait, she already kicked her out) and oh, the baby I forgot to mention in my original post, the one that had the same baby's daddy as the twelve year old, should be taken away. While mom is in jail. I agree with you, DarlaMckinstry.
As incredibly WRONG as I think that is at the same time you have to know that at 12 that little girl was old enough to know that even if she told nothing would come of it and she would simply be more embarrassed. She was old enough to know what was going on and I think most peoples reactions would be: Well why didn't she fight him? Why didn't she tell her teacher? Her best friend? And while there is certainly no evidence to suggest that she in fact didn't do these things, who would believe her? Its exactly like you said at that age everyones first reaction is going to be "Well what a slut!" No one will take into consideration that there was in fact nothing she could do about it.
I don't know...
You can think of twelve year olds in so many different ways:
a. they're almost teens, or
b. they're in seventh grade, or
c. it is their first year out of elementary school.
And whether or not you think this child had the right to say "no," whether she wanted to have sex with the man at 10 years old, 11 years old, or 12 years old, she was still manipulated by a grown man who should be thrown in prison for child molestation.
I see what you are saying, I do... I just can't see the case as anything but rape and I can't stand that adults wouldn't believe her.
And whether or not anyone else believed her, her mother (if you can call her a mother) obviously knew that her boyfriend was having sex with her 12 year old little girl. If the little girl was too afraid to speak out, Mom should have at least called police.
Embarassing? Yes, for the little girl. Maybe even for mom. But I'm sure in a few years the little girl would realize how important it was to stop that dirty pervert from what he was doing.
And actually, I just went back and re-read your comment...
I realize I went kind of on the wrong track with my response (above) but I don't want to get rid of it because I like where it went.
Sorry for taking it in the wrong direction...
I see what you're saying... I'm not sure I agree with everything, but I understand.
I don't know what to believe any more. What can you do when a girl recants her story under duress?
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its people like this that the world should just rid itself of. who does taht sort of thing, and what kind of mother allows that to happen. and wouldnt she get a clue when her boyfriend prefered sleeping with her daughter rather than her!! some people dont deserve the time of day.
sidenote: i happened to notice that your going to PLU, do you happen to know tom swenson?
It's my first year at PLU so I don't know too many people...
help me out. Is he a student? If so, what year? What kind of classes would I find him in?
Is he a faculty member? The name sounds familiar but it could be my mind playing tricks on me :)
There is nothing that angers me more than people who don't believe their kids when they tell about being molested or raped. I was molested at age thirteen, but didn't realize it as such until nearly two years later, and reported it soon after. However, it had been to long, so they couldn't do anything to the bastard. The worst part of this was guilt on my part - how many more girls was he abusing because I didn't speak up in time? I beat myself up mentally and physically for not telling anyone sooner, but these people are very gifted with words - they talk to you in such a way that you think that what they're doing is what you want, that it was your idea, or something stupid like that. It takes years to realize it, if you ever do, and then they do nothing. It's ridiculous. I'm now very wary around men - do I really want to do this, or am I just agreeing because it's what he wants? I can never be sure.
I don't need drugs - I have genetics.
I'm impressed with your confidence in discussing the issue. I'm sorry it all happened. But I don't think you should feel guilty about anything. It doesn't matter how long it took, you did speak up, and that is deserving of respect.
Hopefully even though they can't prosecute the guy they are keeping a closer eye on him. That's all I ask... why can't we keep an eye on those accused of this stuff?
I don't think it's a violation of rights to question someone hanging out with a little girl when they've been accused of molesting a little girl in the past. It's frustrating that we can't do anything.
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It's hard not to feel guilty at first - it's one of the ways that being molested screws with your mind. However, after a few years of sharing my story with others and deciding to go into a career to help others who've experienced the same things I have, I feel much better. Also, he died last September, despite them not doing anything. I don't know how, and I don't care, but at least he can't hurt anyone else. My most recent blog was actually an essay I wrote for Composition class. It's about reporting him to the police, and most of my in-class readers gave very good feedback - they actually felt relief at the conclusion, just as I myself had at that point in my life.
I don't need drugs - I have genetics.
I think that many peoples reactions is what is seriously wrong with Americans. Why wouldnt you believe this 12 year old? Why should we think that she is a slut? Our minds have been seriously twisted these days and it is sad that this or any girl should feel scared to come out and say what happened to her. That should never be the case and I think we should start correcting that problem as soon as possible.
Also, the mother should receive just as much punishment as the man becuase she allowed it to happen and handled the outcome horribly! I am seriously disgusted with the judicial system and just everything about this story. It really makes me angry and sad for this girl that has to live with the situation for he rest of her life.
I know. It's ridiculous.
I know I live in "The Best Country in the World", but I'm not always sure why it's the best... ;)
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That happend to my cousin, her step dad had been rapeing her, he started when she was 7, up untill she was 16, when she came out and confessed to a school official, her mom blamed her...even went and testified agenst her. it screwed up my cousin, and i am happy to say the bastard got life in prison. but it does not help the fact that my cousins mom said she had it coming, i hate that woman.
and i hate her husband. my cousin has relationship issues and issues with men now because of him.
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Thats a lot of the problem children of that age have that happen. It becomes normal for them and that is very sad. My heart goes out to every one of them. I can't imagine if it were one of my girls. That would be the day she would go before the boyfriend. But then again not everyone is 'my children come first'.
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